View Full Version : Current/Future Living Situation
Ant
6th March 2010, 02:20 AM
Just curious how the users of VGC are living. As in, do you live with your parents? By yourself? With friends?
As for myself, for what's to be 2 years come July, I will have been living with 4 other people(2 of which are close friends) in a rented house. All in all, it's been a fairly decent living situation. For the most part we all have the same mannerisms and we all have about the same level of cleanliness, though some are a bit cleaner than others. There's been very little in the way of house drama of which I am extremely grateful for. However, I do sometimes yearn for a time when I was living essentially by myself(was with parentals but they rarely meddled in my affairs).
As for future living quarters, I'm not so sure. I'll probably be moving out with one of my other current roommates of whom I'm sure you all know. I'm just hopeful we can find a place that is affordable enough for both of our incomes and that we won't tear each others throats out. Looking around though for a 2 bedroom apartments in our area the average cost is probably about $1,200 a month. It'd also be nice to find something in the current town we live in. Though if push came to shove I wouldn't mind moving to a near by city and commuting to work.
How bout yourself?
Dexter
6th March 2010, 03:31 AM
I currently live with 4 Filipino kids. They're not too much of a hassle, but when they are I have a good attitude about it. I'm tolerate and patient enough to keep myself level-headed. The oldest one, Donna, at 15, has fantastic motherly skills so she basically takes care of the two little ones. They're expensive but worth it.
My future holds many options. One option, the least likely option, is moving to the Philippines and moving in with the parents of these kids. The idea seems adventurous but it probably would function better as a short summer vacation instead of permanent residence. The kids show a lack of desire to live under their parents limitations as well as the restriction of the Philippines and they enjoy the possibilities America has to offer them, such as education. Not to mention our set up here in Hawaii is very convenient. It's so easy that I'm losing that survival motivational feeling. Like the fight is over. Makes me want to try on poverty just to feel something more real, strange as that may seem.
Another option is staying here in Hawaii long enough to upgrade my degree, which would be two years at University of Hawaii. I don't like the idea of leaving the children at the house while I'm away at school, though, so I'm strongly considering getting an online education. Or maybe my sister, Fairy, would join our party and she can play mom for a bit, which is probably healthy for her. Good to see how hard kids are before you start having them yourself.
Then there's always the option of moving back to Oregon or California. My 7 sisters could help with the kids while I continue my academics. I would probably miss Hawaii a lot though, and so would the kids. They like the idea of moving to the mainland, but they've never been and I know they'd miss Hawaii more than myself. They're heavily into the Filipino culture, which the mainland is seriously lacking in comparison to Hawaii. Generally I feel as though the mainland is missing culture in comparison to Hawaii.
Linkman
6th March 2010, 04:46 AM
I live with my parents. It really, really sucks. But it's all I've got. I can save, save, save this way! /sadpathetic
This will change soon however. I intend to move to England as soon as I can afford it. Upon doing so, I will live with either my aunt or my cousin and her husband for a while. Either would be badass.
Though it is not my overall intent, I hope once there, things work out with my cousin's (other cousin, not one I mentioned) STEP-daughter who I've had a major crush on since going to visit England last year. Pretty sure it's a mutual feeling despite her being a chronic boyfriend hopper. You might hear more about this if I decide to make a thread in "My Life Sucks." I has big dreams. If things work out there, I'll get a place with her. Other than that, I'll just live on Rob's doorstep.
Fate
6th March 2010, 06:33 AM
I've been living with my boyfriend Carlos (Big Boss) since I was eighteen. Next year I plan on interning at Jedi Academy in California so it'll be the first time we will part ways. I plan on staying in California if ILM would have me, but he will not unless he has business there. I'm not worried.
fnool
6th March 2010, 06:49 AM
Moved to the southwest when I was seventeen, rented a room in a house on a grim side of town for a few months. Brother's living situation went tits-up shortly thereafter (he was living in a converted storage space behind his office, and the guy who owns the building in which his business is based decided to kick him out with three days' notice), so we decided to pool our resources and get a flat near the city centre together. Eighteen months so far and shit's great. Mostly just nice to finally have somewhere to call home.
Xero
6th March 2010, 08:46 AM
I currently live with my parents. I moved out in January 2010 with the girlfriend of a friend of mine, but she turned out to be completely irresponsable. She pretty much left the appartment and only came back two-three times from the moment I lived in. She never came back to clean up, she never came back to take care of her bunnies and she ended up telling me to go to hell when I asked her to come back and the cage of her bunnies. Didn't think it would turn out this way, but whatever. She ended up spending too much and could not pay the rent, so I left and went back to my parents in mid-February. I'm there until I find another place to move out in. Alone this time though unless my boyfriend decides to move out as well eventually.
I don't mind living with my parents, but I'm at this point where I want to get out and take care of myself and pay for my own bills, etc. I want to manage my life and it's really frustrating that my first attempt failed, but oh well.
Phant
6th March 2010, 08:50 AM
Been living with my parents all my life. I moved to my Dad's apartment for 4 or so months, but it sucked way too much living in such a small space. Came back to my house.
My future plans would be finishing my studies as quickly as possible to get a job and buy
an apartment for myself.
BLUNTMASTER X
6th March 2010, 08:56 AM
Living with my parents. My brother's about to move out, so I'll basically have two rooms of my own!
Shade
6th March 2010, 10:25 AM
Live at home with my parents. I'll avoid a boring commentary seeing as since I'm in school and have no job, I don't really have any other option. But it's always been nice here. They figured out when I was quite young that it was better and easier for them to just leave me alone for the most part.
Other than the weekend and summer here now, I live on campus at college (about a 2 hour drive from my home town). My roommate's a friend from high school and we get along really well. He's pretty messy, but cleaning relaxes me so it works out when I'm stressed over exams or something. The way our rooms work is that it's 2 of them joined by a bathroom, and one of the guys in the other room seems to think that showering only every third day is enough (which it really isn't) so the place usually stinks a bit, but other than that it's great.
Slade
6th March 2010, 10:58 AM
I lived at home with my parents until my senior year of high school when I (was forcefully) moved north of here to a two-room apartment of my own on the east side of Washington. I had no base there, and lacked the confidence to create any new relationships. Basically I was confused about everything after being uprooted and left on my own so suddenly. After a year of failure I got the opportunity to move back into my parent's old house, while they reside at their new dream retirement property. So now I'm living at home without my parents, and a guy I knew in high school is living here. Originally he payed rent, but he's struggling financially without any aid from his parents, so as long as he keeps his shit together we're cool. So far it's been good, since our schedules tend to match so that when I'm busiest in school he's got a short break, etc. Cleaning gets done, especially since this house is on the market now. Which means I won't be living here forever, even if the house doesn't sell for one or two years.
I'm not sure where I'll be living in the future, but I'll probably try to stay in the pacific northwest for now. It'd be great to move out of this backwater town to someplace with a little more class, or at least personality. If this house sells soon my parents will be taking responsibility for moving me to a new place, especially if it's in the middle of a college term. If I had my way, I'd be making enough money to rent out a small apartment near the outskirts of Portland, but I have to wait until I can upgrade my job before that's possible. I know I'll miss this big house when I have to live completely on my own, but it also feels like I'll have new freedoms with a smaller place that I own. There's no one looking over my shoulder here, but since I'm a capable person I should be taking less from other people.
Angelwing
6th March 2010, 06:04 PM
I currently live in a two bedroom apartment with my friend. It's pretty good, for the most part. It's in one of my favourite areas but the apartment is ugly as fuck. My roommate is hardly ever home when I am which is nice sometimes. But she doesn't do any cleaning besides her dishes. Good thing I'm a clean freak otherwise the bathroom would be a disaster.
By the end of the year I plan on either buying or renting a house. Once I finish school I will be moving away from this city, though. Far, far away.
Yoshi[NX]
6th March 2010, 08:19 PM
We're renting a house that her father and I renovated. It was gutted down to the studs, resubfloored in a number of places, extended by six or so feet, and then rebuilt. He did most of the woodworking, we had someone else do the roof, I did the rewiring, including the cable, power, telephone, and a CAT V system with wiring I got for free off a job. The only thing in the house that's original is the toilet. It was completely unused and hadn't been filled with water. All the utilities needed to be either installed or reinstalled. The power company took a delightful six weeks to do the changeover to our new service.
But, we've been living here since October and it's great.
SWEET BRO
6th March 2010, 09:28 PM
back of my car, using libraries for internet.
Lord of Spam
6th March 2010, 09:48 PM
living in a 2 story house about 5 minutes off base. the roof is a big flat party deck that overlooks the ocean. shits pretty cash except for the lack of ac in my room, which accounts for the giant fans i have, as well as teh fan on my desk. best part is i have the master bedroom and theres only one other dude living here, and hes probably the chillest dude on the boat.
awesome.
Stinger
6th March 2010, 10:27 PM
Back at home, living in a petty rad camper out in the almond orchard until I get out of a ton of medical debt. Pretty sure going to the psychiatric ward was one of the worst mistakes I've ever made in my life, regardless of the possible outcomes of not going in.
SUCH IS LIFE. Gonna move to Modesto or Stockton or some other Central Valley shithole once I get back on my feet. Probably Modesto, preferably within walking distance of the community college.
Futuristic Jet
7th March 2010, 12:45 PM
I live by myself in a house thats pretty sweet with hardwood floors and a big clawfoot bathtub and a really cool unique design. Plus its in an amazing area full of old character houses from the early 1900s and full of art and culture.
No plans to leave anytime soon.
Raptor
7th March 2010, 07:46 PM
I just moved back to the mainland after spending most of my life in Hawaii, because I'm just a fucking haole like that. I'm glad I did, because as much as I appreciated my beautiful surroundings, I was finding island life extremely limiting in terms of opportunities and range of activities, and becoming pretty weary of the various shitty attitudes circulating amongst people all trying to share a little slab of land without stepping on each other's perennially uncovered toes.
Now I moved back to Arizona, where I have a handful of relatives and a couple of friends from when I attended community college here helping me out in various ways with essentially starting over from scratch. It's a pretty decent one bedroom apartment I'm staying in, especially for $399 per month. Of course, apartments here are so cheap because Phoenix generally sucks ass, and the job market is totally in the shitter. Apartment managers across the city are having so much trouble attracting renters, they're offering several months of free rent or free iPod Touches just to try and get more people to sign a lease. I highly doubt I will stay here past May, unless something extraordinary happens that makes me actually want to stay here. Once I hopefully obtain a car of my own within the next couple months, I'll feel like I've made a decent start in what, to me, is a totally different part of the country... and then I'll probably slide over to San Diego for awhile, a place I can definitely not only tolerate, but appreciate more than here. Apartments are way more expensive there, but that shouldn't really be an issue for me. I've got sweet hook-ups.
The Island Spirit shall always live on within me, wherever I go.
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WillisGreeny
11th March 2010, 09:58 AM
I live by myself in a one bedroom apartment with a huge basement to jam in. The building's located pretty close to downtown IowaCity, about a 20 minute walk to the bars and 25 minute walk to school buildings (yeah- that's right, they're right next to each other...it's that kindof town). The building I'm in has two units, me in one, and my brother in the other; and my parents are the landlords. It's a sweet deal since I don't have to pay for cable or food since my bro already makes 40+ a year- However I'm still reluctant to mooch off him whenever the oppurtunity arises knowing he didn't have as easy.
One downside ofcourse is I had once shared the apartment with my ex- so there's lots of memories attachted to the place. When we broke up I moved into my brother's side and then eventually back in with my parents. She moved out two months later and I moved back in. You'd think my parent's could have forced her out, but legally there really wasn't anything they could do.
I have three possibilities for the future: 1. Move up to Minnesota and help a friend who's learning to be a sound engineer start a recording business. 2. Stay in Iowa City and start a Media studio with my bro who's mastered in Computer Science. Or 3- Move to Washington or Cali and try to get a job as a liason officer in a Japanese affiliated company.
Powerline
11th March 2010, 10:27 AM
I currently live with my grandmother. I'm really all that she has and she's getting very old and has a hard time taking care of herself. I don't mind doing it though. She was always around to take care of me in my youth and I just feel like it's my responsibility. I live in what used to be a guest room in her house.
Dexter
11th March 2010, 12:47 PM
I respect those who stay with their parents longer than American standards. As long as the parents still want them around, which I imagine most caring parents do. If given the choice, I would also stay with my parents, even at 26, no matter what onlookers thought. This is a normal aspect of the Filipino lifestyle. Typically they stay with the parents and they assist each other until something comes along that forces them apart, such as marriage or moving far away for work. Even married couples often stay with their parents, which is a lot more difficult in the American culture. They play their lives more like an RPG. The more people you have in your party, the easily the adventure is.
Angelwing
11th March 2010, 07:11 PM
Guys who still live with their parents after age 20 is generally not a good thing. Most don't help out and are just too immature to move out on their own, which is why I now refuse to date guys that still live with mommy and daddy.
ExoXile
11th March 2010, 07:29 PM
Living in a 1 room & kitchen apartment for 2˝ years now.
So ronery. :(
Ant
11th March 2010, 07:32 PM
Guys who still live with their parents after age 20 is generally not a good thing. Most don't help out and are just too immature to move out on their own, which is why I now refuse to date guys that still live with mommy and daddy.
Fuck, I still would if I didn't have to pay for rent. MONEY > living alone
Angelwing
11th March 2010, 07:35 PM
Fuck, I still would if I didn't have to pay for rent. MONEY > living alone
laaame I like my boys independent like me. Wait you don't pay rent? wha
Dexter
11th March 2010, 08:18 PM
But Angel, not everyone who lives with their parents is unable to survive on their own. It's not always for selfish reasons, so to exclude them out entirely from your romantic life seems incredibly unfair. I think you should give them a shot, case by case. Sometimes they sacrifice themselves to take care of their family. That's a huge Filipino style and I wouldn't be surprised if there were some young-adults out there who cared enough about their family to sacrifice for them. Think of what good marriage material they would be. They are showing signs that they'd be there for you until the death do you parts, right?
Ant
11th March 2010, 08:35 PM
laaame I like my boys independent like me. Wait you don't pay rent? wha
no, I do pay rent and live on my own. just sayin. seriously, the amount of money I can't help but think I could still have had I not been paying rent this whole time. makes me sad :(
Dexter
11th March 2010, 08:53 PM
Hawaiian rent is so ridiculous. I think it might be the third most expensive place to live in America, after New York City and San Fransisco. Normal rent is almost three times as much here as it was for me in Oregon. I'm used to seeing young-adults either struggle significantly or stay with their parents, especially if they're attending college/university. I don't expect my kids to move out at 18, possibly not even at 20.
coromoro
11th March 2010, 10:18 PM
I'm currently living with my mother and brother and am actually quite happy to be here and wouldn't have it any other way for the time being. I feel I'm more than capable of living on my own, but living here has many advantages. My current thoughts are, "Why in the world would I want to move out right now? I've got everything I need here." Rent here is unbelievably expensive and I'm not ready to leave this beautiful town again. From Summer '08 to Summer '09 I was living in Mexico, so they were really happy to have me here again and I'm happy to be with them too. From time to time I get anti-social and I avoid seeing my friends for long periods of time, so having my mom and bro there ensures I'm not completely isolated.
So yeah, I plan to stick around here for a while, but I do have the urge to move out from this house and from this town eventually. I simply don't feel now is the right time. I'm not sure where I'll go yet, but I've got a couple of places in mind.
Hey Dex, can I live with you if I decide to go to Hawaii? :cool:
#061402
11th March 2010, 11:03 PM
I'm currently living on my own far up North, with the cat as my only company. Went to Uni here, but turns out it's not what I'm looking for, so I'm going home for another year to work my ass off, then head over to NZ to study, if all goes well.
The underground
11th March 2010, 11:43 PM
had room so i invited parents to live with me. I pretty much just stay in my room its a 12'x18' walk-in closet that u cant walk in anymore desktop and laptop in same area. My pet snake chilling in his cage.if i were to decribe my room i guess it would be late 80's grunge.
Dexter
11th March 2010, 11:48 PM
Hey Dex, can I live with you if I decide to go to Hawaii? :cool:
Thus starts the VGC sitcom, with special guess appearances from NES Queen and Felix TC, with flashbacks of Aesthetics and Vampy. Not to mention the entire 132nd episode is dedicated to a conversation that features numerous flashbacks of all previous episodes. Hilarity will transpire, characters will develop, and outside viewers will be inspired to become a part of the series.
WillisGreeny
12th March 2010, 12:20 AM
As much as I love my parents, and though I'd save a lot of money, I could never move back in. However, I still like to raid their fridge while they're both at work. ^_^
Lord of Spam
12th March 2010, 01:55 AM
i could not imagine still having to live at home. hell, i dont even really interact with roommates unless theres something goin on (grill out, party, etc)
fnool
12th March 2010, 05:06 AM
Thus starts the VGC sitcom, with special guess appearances from NES Queen and Felix TC, with flashbacks of Aesthetics and Vampy. Not to mention the entire 132nd episode is dedicated to a conversation that features numerous flashbacks of all previous episodes. Hilarity will transpire, characters will develop, and outside viewers will be inspired to become a part of the series.
can I be the angry landlord everyone always talks about and never actually meets
Dexter
12th March 2010, 10:26 AM
Brilliant idea. Definitely adds character and mystery to the show.
Lord of Spam
12th March 2010, 03:20 PM
ill be the guy who spends all day at work, comes home, gets drunk, and yells abusive things that i wont remember the next day before passing out.
:'(
ExoXile
12th March 2010, 03:27 PM
Let's live together LoS.
Angelwing
12th March 2010, 05:26 PM
no, I do pay rent and live on my own. just sayin. seriously, the amount of money I can't help but think I could still have had I not been paying rent this whole time. makes me sad :(
Ah. Yeah I know. The first year I moved out and lived on my own I spent just over $7000 in rent. Disgusting.
But Angel, not everyone who lives with their parents is unable to survive on their own. It's not always for selfish reasons, so to exclude them out entirely from your romantic life seems incredibly unfair. I think you should give them a shot, case by case. Sometimes they sacrifice themselves to take care of their family. That's a huge Filipino style and I wouldn't be surprised if there were some young-adults out there who cared enough about their family to sacrifice for them. Think of what good marriage material they would be. They are showing signs that they'd be there for you until the death do you parts, right?
There are probably a few cases out there where living with your parents isn't pathetic but most of the guys I know and have dated who do still live with parents have incredibly lame reasons and no excuse to stay at home.
I'm never getting married.
WillisGreeny
12th March 2010, 06:17 PM
Do it for the money.
Dexter
13th March 2010, 02:22 AM
I'm never getting married.
I feel the exact same way, but I'm certain it's for entirely different reasons.
Linkman
13th March 2010, 02:30 AM
I'll probably never get married either. Though strangely, I want to have at least one kid.
Living with your parents really damages your pride. I think that's why most people that still do live with their parents are that way. But as is my reason, I'm fucking determined to become a Britfag, and therefore need the money.
But no, not everyone that does live with their parents is pathetic. My cousin still lives with his mother (my aunt) at the age of 24. He helps her out a lot since my uncle died. He'd probably be one of the nicest guys you've met. It's just a situation of, "everything is good here, why waste the money just for the sake of 'honor' and 'pride'?"
Lisa has her reasons, but usually if a girl puts off a guy just because he lives with his parents (or vice-versa), she's probably shallow to begin with.
WillisGreeny
13th March 2010, 02:36 AM
I lived with my parents till I was 20 to save money for my trip to Japan- but then this cunt I was seeing said "hey- let's live together" and I was all like "hey- I'll do it so we can keep fucking" and that was that... Still haven't gone to Japan yet, and now I have no fuck buddy.
yep, shoulda stayed with my parents just one more year lol
radical
13th March 2010, 08:18 AM
Currently living with my (almost ex)boyfriend then I'm moving back home in two months. Will have to live with my parents for a few months while trying to find my own place.
Angelwing
13th March 2010, 06:53 PM
Do it for the money.
Except the majority will most likely be mine so not worth it.
Lisa has her reasons, but usually if a girl puts off a guy just because he lives with his parents (or vice-versa), she's probably shallow to begin with.
I wouldn't really call it shallow, it's a valid reason if the circumstances are right. The guy has to have some pretty redeeming qualities for me to overlook it, though.
why do I end up dating babies, I'm like the immature boy magnet, I don't know what I'm doing wrong. I should make an e/n thread
Dexter, what is your reason for never wanting to get married?
WillisGreeny
14th March 2010, 12:08 AM
Except the majority will most likely be mine so not worth it.
lol clearly dating losers if you think that.
Slade
14th March 2010, 01:12 AM
Where the fuck are the rich ass honeys who didn't make it off their sugar daddy's paychecks? I must live in a disgusting place, but most of what I see in my age group is girls planning to be dependent on men. It's revolting. I'll probably marry a girl who doesn't always shave her armpits.
But no, not everyone that does live with their parents is pathetic. My cousin still lives with his mother (my aunt) at the age of 24. He helps her out a lot since my uncle died. He'd probably be one of the nicest guys you've met. It's just a situation of, "everything is good here, why waste the money just for the sake of 'honor' and 'pride'?"
Lisa has her reasons, but usually if a girl puts off a guy just because he lives with his parents (or vice-versa), she's probably shallow to begin with.
Sounds like taking care of family is a huge part of your cousin's decision, too, which puts an attractive spin on the situation. Being mature enough to set aside your desires to live on your own in order to care for an older family member is pretty boss.
It's about as shallow as avoiding any other behavior or trend in the opposite sex. I'm extremely shallow about avoiding girls who appear to be shallow, aka billboards for the latest stupid trends and speech patterns. Everyone's shallow, carries their prejudices. It doesn't mean anything.
Linkman
14th March 2010, 05:45 AM
That's why I used him as an example. In his case, it has the opposite effect. I was basically talking in the sense of, "oh he lives with his parents, he has no chance with me." I can see why a life of dating losers would do that to you though. Everyone has their curses, even me. I tend to attract to the "girl in the situation." The ones who's self-esteems are so low, they almost don't exist. It's been that way since I was 11 years old. I think I've more or less learned to accept it and have chosen to pursue my cousin's step-daughter. Although, thanks to her blank personality, she has a chronic addiction to being in mundane relationships, purely for a personal definition, security, and a scapegoat from boredom, it maybe very difficult or just take awhile. Sometimes, I'm not even sure why I like her so much. Her caring sweetness mixed with a wild side maybe?
*sigh* fml :(
Angelwing
14th March 2010, 03:30 PM
I'll probably marry a girl who doesn't always shave her armpits.
best idea right here
fnool
14th March 2010, 07:21 PM
This might just be a result of my being a weird asshole, but I'm drawn to the idea of dating a girl who still lives with her parents. I enjoy a pretty sweet degree of independence in my current situation, and I want to share that with someone who might not be all that familiar with such things.
Dexter
14th March 2010, 08:23 PM
I agree. They will appreciate you more, depend on you more, feel obligated to you more. You become more of a knight to them, rescuing them, tricking them into thinking that ending their dependency on their parents and turning dependent on you is a sign of growing up and maturing. They are a lot easier to take advantage of, less of a challenge. They become a project of yours, someone you can take care of, and feel good about doing so. We like to feel needed and they help us do so. So many benefits from the situation.
fnool
15th March 2010, 04:46 AM
Yeah, basically that without the "taking advantage of her" and "tricking her into becoming dependent on me" parts. Those are a little creepy.
Lord of Spam
15th March 2010, 05:27 AM
Since i pay nothing for living here (buddy covers 100% of rent/utilities) im thinking about routing my oha papers and getting a place in this little apartment building right on the beach. best part is its a converted strip mall type deal that was full of bars, so the interiors are awesome.
stable, quiet relaxing home AND a badass party house on a beach? fuck win
Panic!
15th March 2010, 06:23 AM
I currently live with my parents and younger sister in a 3 bedroom house that my parents are renting. It's a nice house and my parents are hoping that one day our landlord will sell it to us eventually but he says he wants to retire here. Who the fuck wants to retire to New Jersey?
Angelwing
15th March 2010, 05:53 PM
I agree. They will appreciate you more, depend on you more, feel obligated to you more. You become more of a knight to them, rescuing them, tricking them into thinking that ending their dependency on their parents and turning dependent on you is a sign of growing up and maturing. They are a lot easier to take advantage of, less of a challenge. They become a project of yours, someone you can take care of, and feel good about doing so. We like to feel needed and they help us do so. So many benefits from the situation.
Don't guys get sick of girls who depend on them for everything? I know I would. But I'm fucked up and too independent I guess so what do I know.
Dexter
15th March 2010, 07:24 PM
Some guys will, especially if they don't care enough for the person...or love. They will resent them for dragging them down, even more when they're not truly or strongly stable. Most guys like feeling powerful and having a girl depending on them helps enable that feeling. Gives us a sense of control over them. Not to mention we are typically protective, wanting to secure someone safely in our arms. I'm sure most guys would like their girls to be evidently appreciative of all they've done for them.
Taking care of only ourselves is far too easy. Boys love a challenge. We are self-destructive that way, I suppose. Interesting idea that I'll investigate more.
I don't know what I'd do with an independent girl. I would feel like I'm wasting myself on her. Like I have the ability to truly save someone's life yet I use myself on someone who would be just fine without me. I suppose it's a lot like a parent who is able to have their own child but feels the need to adopt and take care of a child without parents. I felt comfortable leaving my sister on her own once I realized she was going to be fine without me.
But personally, this is coming from a guy who would instead choose to have children and no wife at all. I don't feel the need to have an equal partner, for I feel capable of doing most everything on my own. Instead I'd choose to help someone along with their own journey, to teach and protect them. My entire mentality on this subject is most unusual according to normality. A normal boy probably feels the need to have someone there to help with their own emotional needs and for support.
Apple Sauce
24th March 2010, 05:00 PM
Currently, I'm living in a room in a 3-bedroom townhouse in Virginia Beach, Virginia, with my friends Cynthia and Anthony and their 3-month-old daughter Aubrey. Before that, I had one roommate, Lillian, at this same house, and before that I was rooming with another VGC member for a year in a 1-bedroom apartment when I first moved here. All of these have been fun and rewarding, and although they have had their down moments, I wouldn't trade it for the world. I've had a LOT of fun moving around the country every two years, so my next place to go... who knows! Anybody looking for a roommate that's not in California, Utah, or Virginia? :p
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Dex, you got it right when it comes to taking care of yourself, at least financially. It's so easy to support myself because I'm just so damned responsible it's disturbing. I currently have my phone bill, rent, and car insurance paid MONTHS in advance, and I paid off nearly $8000 in credit card debt in less than a year, while still buying a car, a new wardrobe, bedroom set, workout equipment, and, last of all, my INSANELY EXPENSIVE drinking habits. It's too easy, I want a challenge. My last girlfriend cost me about $500 a month just to drive up to New York to see her every month and pay part of her rent, food costs, etc., the one before that cost me a HUGE amount of gas money because she refused to drive and she lived about 20 minutes away, and the one before that... well, that's how I got $8000 in debt. :p
Although, to be honest, I would like a girl that's MOSTLY independent. I like a girl that takes care of herself financially, but survives with just a LITTLE left over for herself, so I can spoil her. :D
Dexter
24th March 2010, 07:14 PM
After I situate Donna and the kids, I'll probably be looking for a new adventure myself. Although I enjoy Hawaii, I can't help but feel the need to switch scenes, even if it's going back to an old location, such as Oregon or California. Both sound like delightful ideas. I've already been living here for over 2 years, so I feel the time to alter the location is close. I'd already be gone if it weren't for the kids, honestly.
So let's go to Oregon, Skitzo. I got a sister moving to Arizona and she's trying to talk me into going there, too.
Fairy
24th March 2010, 08:06 PM
lets all go to california! :angel:
Apathetic
24th April 2010, 11:28 PM
:rainbow2:ALREADY FUCKING THERE:rainbow2:
ant/corrupt/judge + newcomers fate/dexter/fairy
Am I missing anybody else in the california state or coming here?
I was? Stinger? whoever this is they must be the closest vgcer to me! didnt know that.
I live with my parents, but they expect me to go to college next year. staying in cali. sorry though ant/judge nothing near simi and no sd(?) either corrupt. the most south I'll possibly be is santa cruz for college unless I transfer or do year abroad. but in secret i plan to show up at fnlcl's door and live at his place for sometime. shhhhh.
Shin-Ra
25th April 2010, 12:35 PM
I live by myself in a 3 bedroom house with my kitty. I'm an only child, so it works out really well for my needs and I'm way happier now than I've ever been. The only thing that does suck is that I work nights (7pm-7am) so on the nights that I'm off work (I only work 3 days a week) I usually keep the same sleep schedule, so I'm almost exclusively up at night. It's very, very isolating and nothing is ever open when I'm awake, but I keep myself entertained. I need to take pictures of the house, because I've had an absolute blast decorating.
However I intend on moving either later this year or a year from now.
My options:
-A few of my closest friends are moving to Australia and I'd love to live in Australia for a while, despite the most intimidating wildlife known to man.
-Hawaii has unionized nursing with a 1:4 patient ratio in a med-surg setting (at my hospital it's 1:6 or 7) and starting pay at $40 an hour. With shift differential I'd end up making $48 an hour for working nights, so this is a very heavy option for me.
-I miss living in Austin and it'd be a great place to try out the whole "living far away from my family" thing. Plus, I was fucking born in Austin, lived there until I was 13 and I love it more than any other city. Minus the traffic. Worst traffic ever.
-Portland, Oregon is where I want to eventually end up. I'm not sure I'm ready to move there yet, because I have so many other places I want to go.
The Judge
7th May 2010, 01:22 PM
Just curious how the users of VGC are living. As in, do you live with your parents? By yourself? With friends?
As for myself, for what's to be 2 years come July, I will have been living with 4 other people(2 of which are close friends) in a rented house. All in all, it's been a fairly decent living situation. For the most part we all have the same mannerisms and we all have about the same level of cleanliness, though some are a bit cleaner than others. There's been very little in the way of house drama of which I am extremely grateful for. However, I do sometimes yearn for a time when I was living essentially by myself(was with parentals but they rarely meddled in my affairs).
As for future living quarters, I'm not so sure. I'll probably be moving out with one of my other current roommates of whom I'm sure you all know. I'm just hopeful we can find a place that is affordable enough for both of our incomes and that we won't tear each others throats out. Looking around though for a 2 bedroom apartments in our area the average cost is probably about $1,200 a month. It'd also be nice to find something in the current town we live in. Though if push came to shove I wouldn't mind moving to a near by city and commuting to work.
How bout yourself?
This describes me perfectly. How weird.
Apathetic
10th May 2010, 04:34 PM
Ill be living in santa cruz in like 5 months, woohoo!
Absolut Dirtbag
14th May 2010, 08:46 PM
Current: I live with my husband, Aaron, and my two cats, Marion and Orion. Our place is a one bedroom apartment in a really pretty gated community. We have a garage...I never have to talk to the neighbors. It's like my Batcave. Rent is significantly higher here than in our last place, but our neighborhood sucked back in Kentucky. Seriously awful. Like crackhead-knocking-on-your-door-at-3am awful. Anyway, this place is beautiful and we're fortunate to have it. The set-up is great. I can smoke up and sit by the pool on my days off -- and it's Florida, so I can actually enjoy it and not freeze my ass off.
Future: Just got hired on full time with Disney (shit yesss), so we're looking at houses in the area or the next town over. We want a small place with a big yard so I can have a piglet or chickens. Or both. ^_^ It's really frustrating, though, because all the houses we've been interested in are under contract or too far away from work. Effffff.
Apple Sauce
15th May 2010, 09:10 AM
I'm currently living in a 3-bedroom townhouse. I'll be putting in my 30-day here soon and a little later my 2-week at work. I'm gonna load up my car with all my shit, and just... go. I'll hit New York, Wisconsin, Utah, and Cali. If anybody wants to hang out sometime this fall, hit me up, let's see what we can do!
Angelwing
15th May 2010, 04:53 PM
I'm currently living in a 3-bedroom townhouse. I'll be putting in my 30-day here soon and a little later my 2-week at work. I'm gonna load up my car with all my shit, and just... go. I'll hit New York, Wisconsin, Utah, and Cali. If anybody wants to hang out sometime this fall, hit me up, let's see what we can do!
vegas sept 2010 be there
Apple Sauce
15th May 2010, 06:55 PM
vegas sept 2010 be therei wont be able to stay long. you and your boytoy will be making kissy face all day :-* :-*
Hyper
30th May 2010, 07:29 PM
Bought a house in central Arizona, living here with my fiancé and a roommate. Currently looking for a replacement roommate. :)
Not much to do in this area. Very small community of a couple thousand people. 45 minutes north of Phoenix, 45 minutes east of Prescott Valley/Prescott. Walmart is a 40 minute drive. We have a McDonalds and a Subway and that's about it. I work overnights but rarely keep my sleep schedule on days off.
Considering I'm four months in to a 30 year mortgage, I'm pretty sure I'll be here for a long time.
Apathetic
5th June 2010, 07:49 PM
http://www.unigo.com/privateAssets/0/3328/3332/3760/7773aae7-b84a-457a-ae91-6bc089fe7a6cbig.jpg
I will be there, mid september
im.not.me.ok
10th June 2010, 02:38 PM
i live with a roommate, we share an apartment in manhattan
prob gonna stay here a while, but i'd like to move because i'm really over manhattan and i want to move to LA or something... weather's nicer and i think the culture is more my style, plus i'd get to have a car
misoxeny
11th June 2010, 11:22 AM
After having moved around New Mexico, I'm back in the suburbs of Albuquerque. After I finish grad school and find a steady job in my field, I'll be building an adobe house with traditional New Mexico touches. In my time off, I've been exploring parcels of land which have the right combination of view, location, and price to scoop up while the economy is down. Ideally, it'll be on a hillside overlooking the mountains.
Adobe houses look like this, for those who aren't familiar with them:
http://i48.tinypic.com/k3vj3s.jpg
The turquoise paint is used to ward off bad spirits.
Apathetic
11th July 2010, 11:33 PM
Will it be orange?
Your grad school is in New Mexico?
Vampiro V. Empire
18th July 2010, 03:49 AM
with my mom and sister in a bungalow in st. catharines. been here for 12 years. slight possibility of moving to north carolina for a year and an even slighter chance of moving to texas. NC would be with my dad, his wife and two kids in Charlotte. Texas would be Austin on my own for job training.
but there's a 15% chance of that happening. though I'd be making ridiculous cash.
Dexter
18th July 2010, 12:07 PM
Huge chance of us moving to Oregon. Reason is to continue my education, even though it seems worthless, since I already make a fantastic living. I just need to get Donna's citizenship first.
Apathetic
18th July 2010, 11:30 PM
Im in a small triple. Blahhhh fuck. Oh well. 2 roommates, hope they are awesome.
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