Guidelines for the Bandmembers Significant Other




Posted by MetalVox~55

A Band Girlfriend's Guide
(by those who know)

-Don't try to be the "manager", do not get involved with band business, that is for the band.

-Don't ask his bandmates for relationship advice.

-Do not complain when your (insert holiday here) date gets cancelled because a show has been scheduled. Holidays are no longer yours. Even Valentines Day!

***-It's NOT mandatory that you are at every show.***

-Do not get jealous when your boyfriend talks to groupies. They are the one's buying the CDs and merch, not you, so let them have their time. And remember...you get to go home with him!

-Babies don't make men quit bands....especially if you were a groupie.

-No, the band does not want you to go on tour with them. Like you're going to sleep in the back of a van and eat ramen for 4 months straight!?

-Don't make the following introduction: Hi! I'm _____. My boyfriend is in ______.

-Don't follow him around at shows like a lost puppy, he is taking care of business, find your own crowd.

-Don't go to band practice. And it's normal to have practice more than once a week.

-Do not assume everyone loves your boyfriend's band.

-Don't make out with other band members girlfriends at the bar. Save that for the after party.

-Don't turn yourself into a walking flyer for your boyfriend's band. The shirt is fine, but must you break out the hat, the hoodie, AND the stickers on your ***?

-Do not stand in front of your boyfriend while he is onstage and stare at him like he is the greatest singer in the world.

-No rumpshaka dances during the show, that is unless your man is in 2 Live Crew.

-Do not change your style based on the type of band guy you date. Going from Preppy to Nu Metal to Hardcore shows you are not your own individual.

-If he calls while out on the road, don't complain about when he is coming home. You're lucky he is using the quarter to call you, instead of buying gas or food.

-Never say anything negative about your man's band that you cannot say to him. It will only come back to bite you in the ***.

-If you're a stripper, keep work on the pole, not at shows. Not everyone wants to know you shop at FREDRICKS !

-Never cause a fight right before your man goes on stage. Relationship problems can be dealt with after the show.

-If they have a show out of town, don't drive just so you and your boy can have "alone time". Because you want to "talk".

-Don't buy your man a new instrument so he and his band mates can match

-You cannot drink on the band's tab! Buy your own The Tour Manager works for the band, not the girlfriends. Get your own *** into catering,etc

-Keep the band seperate from your everyday life. That's your boyfriend's passion, find your own




Posted by Shin-Ra

- Do not fight with your boyfriend's ex-girlfriend at the show. Nothing will ruin the set more than him having to break it up. (I've seen this happen)

- It's cool to watch your guy play, but don't sit in a place on stage with the band. You are not who everyone paid to see.

- It's not necessary to take pictures of and record every show.

- Don't make comments when all your boyfriend talks about (at the shows) is music. He's a musician talking with fellow musicians or music enthusiasts, the people go to shows to get their fix, this is supposed to happen. You are there for your boyfriend, there's a difference.

I agree and approve of this thread 100%




Posted by TheSecondComing

Lead guitarist of my band is dating the drummer's sister. And it's fine. I'm actually amazed how well it's going.




Posted by Richaod


Quoting MetalVox~55: -Don't try to be the "manager", do not get involved with band business, that is for the band.


I love how that applies to Sepultura. :)



Posted by Trigger

This thread is genius; any "band girlfriends" that read this thread better be paying close attention to these guidelines. (They should be rules.)




Posted by mis0

You could simplify this in saying: "***** I'LL CALL YOU FOR SEX EVERY FEW MONTHS. LEAVE ME ALONE."