I am a little tired right now so I'll post more thoughts later, however I felt like getting a headstart [ha ... ha?] on the topic.
I am curious about your opinion on sex. What does it mean to you? Mindless ****ing, something special or something you will only do to reproduce? What are your moralities or restrictions concerning it?
well for me sex is like getting more intimate with someone. you dont plan to have sex on certain days, you do it because when ur in the mood(horny) and it just happens. i would only have sex with someone if i know for sure that that person loves me and that i share the same feeling for him, and if i really trust that person. that's just my opinon. it's probably way different from guys point of view
With my current girlfriend... it means quite a lot actually. More so than ever in the past. I do it differently, I experience it definitely, and it feels different. These are, of course, all good things. Sex used to be flat-out sex before. Just something you did that felt **** good. Didn't really care who it was, or what my relationship with them was, but that's changed now. Whether that continues in the distant future, who knows. But right now I can't image just having "sex" with some random person. There's, of course, a difference between making love and having sex, but both mean a lot more now.
As for restrictions. I have an open partner. So, the limits are nearly endless. There's a couple extremes neither of us want to try right now, but otherwise I don't see why I should put setup restrictions just because something's taboo.
It depends on the person you're with.
Only once has it really been something special to me. And now that he's gone I only ever have sex for the pleasure... that's it.
Sex is the greatest physical high I can experience with another person.
I'll know if the person to share that with is right.
An oppurtunity to put my cock in something.
Sex is not being had at the moment:(
Ive had both meaningful, loving sex, and I've been with girls whos names I cant remember. The former is definately preferable.
It depends on the time and place. It can be intimate at times, but even if it's with some one you love, it can become a casual thing. Reproduction really isn't in mind when I do it. It's just a source of comfort and pleasure. Although I wouldn't recommend it with some one you're not romantically involved with, but I don't think of romance being the result of sex, or sex being a result of romance. I don't think sex is particularly meaningful when it's not being used for reproduction. Is it okay to have it in your life though? Yeah, of course. It's one of the most pleasurable physical experience you can share with some one.
When trying to reproduce, I'd want the sex to be explosive, meaningful, and with some one I love. I'm sure most people feel the same way.
[quote=Lord of Spam]Ive had both meaningful, loving sex
This is yet to occur on my side of things.
As for whether or not reproduction is involved, I'm infertile anyway. Doesn't make a difference. Romance is my primary concern.
Sex is a nerve-stimulating reproductive function, and that's all it really is to me at this point.
I'll get back to you later.
After you have sex a lot, that "only with someone I love" bull**** means nothing. Pure pleasure is what it means to me. This "love-making" sounds so boring and slow. Not nearly domineering or energetic enough. Pure ****ing is what I want!
Although it is nice to do it with someone I love. I feel less exposed that way.
How old of girls do you hang out with? They must have some really monster dicks inside of them for it to hurt all the time.
lol, they're over 18, well not all of them say the same thing, but that's what i've heard. sex for men and women is different
Yeah, I've heard that. Sucks to be in the 70% of women that don't orgasm during sex. :(
Hm, I wonder what percentage of men don't orgasm during sex. I'm guessing 0-2.
For me it's the maximum expression of love, it's the best feeling ever.
Also knowing when to slow down. Or even stop for a couple of seconds. That's usually all you need to prolong an upcoming orgasm. Most guys just keep going though.
to me sex is busting a nut on a girl's face and then backhanding her but you know that's just me
Seeing as how I'm still a virgin, it's a hell I can't escape. Sex is everywhere, on TV, billboards, books, magasines. Everywhere I turn there is something, or someone giving me the desire to have sex. However, I'm not going to do what the guys(Jay I think) says on the 40 year old virgin. Just lose your virginity to someone who's not special. I'm saving it for the right person, not some prostitue down the street.
Isn't Killer Jordo, like, thirteen?
Yes, but I've got a feeling that his age isnt the only thing holding him back if you know what I mean.
He just turned 14 a month ago.
sex to me is nothing more then getting a boner and shoving it in some guy/girl/anything. I'm not even going to see love is required.
Because it's not. That's the dream of a virgin obsessed with love.
I guess it depends on who it's with. I've had a lot of sex and there were a couple girls where it was meaningful. And then there were some that was me basically using them. And I realize now i've been going about it all wrong. I feel like such a horrible person for doing it. Why have meaningless sex?
It took me a while to realize what i've done. Sex is something that should only be done with the one or few that you Love. I realize you may have had a bf/gf that you had sex with that left you after you had sex. And that basically sucks but you'll get over it.
I'll start with my first time. I was 19. She was a whore. Not the kind that did it for money. The kind that was seeing 4 other guys behind my back. I sort of suspected it. So, the first time meant nothing to me. Just another life experience to get out of the way. A 'notch on the belt' so to speak.
The second girl I slept with was one I ended up dating for about 4 1/2 years. At first the sex was just for fun. It was merely a physical connection. In the first year it was unusual for us to not have sex at least 4 times a week, and she even lived 45 minutes away. As time moved on, we connnected more and more on an emotional level. Our love grew stronger, and sex seemed to have more meaning. It became more than just 'busting a nut'. But it still seemed to be missing something. I have noticed with most women that when they oragsm, they seem to feel it with their entire body. The way they tremble. The way every muscle in their entire body seemed to contract and tense. It seemed powerful. I was in envy of that. I wanted that! Eventually I had a similar orgasm with her. The passion was so intense, and we were so into each other that I had achieved the most intense climax ever. It was like a shockwave that passed through my body. That only happened once. Eventually things became so routine, it was getting boring. Sex became planned. Sometimes we tried new thing, but eventually the relationship went south. It ended about two years ago.
Since then I have dated quite a few women. Relationships spanning between 1 week to 2 months. There I was at square one again. Looking for pure physical contact, and not much else. They were all crazy anyway. But hey, at least they were good in the sack.
The last person I had sex with was an 'escort'. For those of you in rio linda <---(look, i'm like Jesse! :D ) that meas a hot looking, high class hooker. Best $200 I ever spent. She was 19 and looked like she was 30. I never thought I'd bang a hired whore. It was typically against my moral judgement. But, I was at the point where I was just so danm tired of being jerked around by women (no pun intended) that I'd rather just pay for it and be done with it. No taking her to dinner first. No awkward suspense. No calling her the next day. Just up front and payed for sex. And it was good.
Currently, I view dating and marriage as a mere form of leagal prostitution. Only the sex is guaranteed with a hooker. You can spend all the money you want on a wife or g/f, say one wrong thing, and suddenly they have a headache.
So, that is where I'm currently at in this point of my life. Good booze and bad women. I could get laid if I wanted to. Even without the direct cash exchange for it. But, women are evil. I'd rather avoid the whole lot of them for a while. Until then, I'll continue to view sex as a way for women to suck the money out of my wallet, and the life from my body.
Viewing obects as women is presently working best for me.
Love isn't required for sex, but it can be a catalyst. Also, I personally believe that such intimate acts should be engaged with more care, and with your lover. "Because it feels good" isn't a very responsible reason to have sex with just anyone.
[quote][FONT=Book Antiqua]If you're responsible, it's responsible. Simple as that.[/FONT]
And it's responsible to **** a guy you just met, just because he's chiseled? Sure, you can use a condom and ask if he has any STDs, but that still doesn't make it a responsible choice.
[quote]I highly doubt it's 70%. I've had sex with 14 different girls and they've all had orgasms. I highly doubt it's 70%. Maybe you should find a guy who knows what he's doing. Thats pretty sad.. 70% Pffft doubt it. And lord correct me if i'm wrong, but I garuntee i'm not the greatest male in bed or probably in the top 10 Million if not higher.
Most of that 70% fake it. :) Next time you see one of your "girlfriends," thank her for sparing your feelings.
[quote]whatever iris said
Yeah, womenz don't want to be seen as unable to get off during sex and the nice ones don't want you to feel bad about being unable to get them off.
70%... You can't be serious?? I blame the male population for not doing its part!!
Jesus Christ... Is it bad then that I know a girl who'll have like 20 during sex?
If that's the case, it probably has nothing to do with you.
ProTip: Pay attention to other sensitive zones of the body, and dont focus on the stereotypical sexual zones. Take your time and move at a pace she feels comfortable with for great justice.
Random: No, it's good you know such kind, outgoing people.
In and out will hardly ever cut it by itself. Try being more creative, and maybe a little more intense. Also, like LoS said, the vagina's not the only part that can be stimulated for pleasure.
[quote=Vampiro][FONT=Book Antiqua]Sure. If you're responsible about it.[/FONT]
[FONT=Book Antiqua][FONT=Eras Medium ITC]I'm just saying, I thought it was a generally well known fact that the more you get to know some one, the higher chance you'll have of knowing if he's a trustable person and you can engage in safe, intimate relations.[/FONT][/FONT]
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[FONT=Eras Medium ITC]A lot of men can probably be offended when you tell them they're doin' it wrong. I just don't think it's going to help their masculinity if you bring it to their attention that they do nothing for you.[/FONT]
I think what Opeth said is what makes being with someone you know and who knows you better than a random hawt person more enjoyable. The more you're with someone the more they know about all your kinks, and when they exploit them it's amazing.
Of course. Everyone has seen the stereotypical "hot peson with crap personality." Thing is though, until you know the person, you don't know how they'll react.
Also, Slade's right. Little kinks and quirks can become huge attractions just because it's some one you love. Although, I'm not sure if he meant it as kinky sex or personality traits, it's true regardless.
I'd rather explore a dam.
To the whole situation. Will they do some creepy **** during sex, or tell everyone or make a scene? Will they beat you up before ****ing you inside out? The good thing about people you know is that they become a little more predictable. Although that may make the sex seem weaker at first, I'd much rather prefer it to harmful spontaneity.
I don't have to worry about a lot of that, since I'm a guy. Chances are a girl isn't going to beat me up, and I don't care what she says about me afterwards. Like I said, if it's a one time thing, I don't plan on sticking around to see the aftermath. That's the whole point. It's a quick **** and nothing more.
Girls can fake it well, dear. :)
i mean come on if you aren't going to involve violence with your sex why bother?
I would bet anything I own that you have never touched a woman without eitehr paying for it or without her being offended in some way.
that would be pretty funny if it was true, and if a surprisingly large amount of adults didn't enjoy consensual violent sex. nice try though.