I just needed to vent a little since no one else is around. So, the story is like so; she and I have been going out for 5 months (and a week, today), and I've been noticing that she's been a little busy lately. Can't talk as much. It's okay though, no big deal. I just miss talking. Anyway, I noticed that she was acting a little off in our conversations lately too, like not responding as fast on AIM, seeming a little....far off when together. I anticipated that something was really wrong, so we started talking about it today when she came over. I found out that she wasn't ready for a long, long term relationship because she didn't know what her future was going to hold for her at this time. So, we're now taking a break. She still likes me, and I still completely like her. So I'm hoping in the future that we can get back together. I see the logic behind what she is saying, but I'm guessing that it's the emotions behind it that make me so fast to not understand. Needless to say, there was both alot of crying today from us being together. Saying goodbye for a little while hurts.
So there's today's rant. Comments? Help me feel better, and see the light.
I'm already telling you, right now, on AIM, about my current, more drastic, far more painful situation involving my rectum.
If you love this girl, you must understand that you have to be incredibly careful during this transition. Try to show her that you guys can date without getting so serious as to scare her away. Try to limit words such as "love" for they can be dreadfully daunting words to the weakness of the uncommitted or young. Usually during these times, the boy or girl learns that life is fine without having the other around. Don't give her the opportunity to realize that. This is when you must act your best. Become cooler, more responsible, and remember the other girls in your life. Show her that you aren't dull and nobody will be able to triumph over the relationship you guys once held, even if they can. Talk friendly with her, but leave out anything that has to do with your old relationship. She could possibly start to miss that talk, which adds more of a chance of her wanting to get back into it. And remember, I never told you any of this. It's all you. You're the man!
Oh my god, Dex. That was incredibly good advice!
You offically rock.
Be awefully weary man, my last girlfriend started acting that way...and well...once i found out her and my best friend of 11 years got together the night after one of these "breaks"...well, nedless to say he found a 3 foot, ninja style katana imbedded in his wooden deck that next morning.
Always true. But she would be honest enough to tell me if there was someone else.
I asked, don't worry.
Thats cool man, hope everything works out for the best for you. Perhaps all she needs is a little breathing room, who knows buddy.
That's what I'm totally hoping for.
Breathing room for like.....not long.
Well...I hope everything works out for you two :D
Thank you
if i may ask..how old is your girlfriend?
Odd questions above me.
Blargh.
Well, at least you know where you stand with your girlfriend. I don't even know what the hell me and my love are anymore.
Love can be hella confusing.
Mm. Scary
And she's 16, 4 days older than me
Soon she'll be crying because she'll feel bad for ever doing such a thing to do, Velvet.
No tears. Unless happyones from making up :)
Wow... all this stress is why I stay away from relationships. ^_^
I hope it turns out well, though. (I personally can't stand the drama. x.x)
This was important enough to capitalise every word in the subject line, wasn't it?
If a girl agrees or proposes that both of you should "take a break" from each other, more than likely she probably just wants to take advantage of it to bang someone else and you'll have no one to ****. But whatever, girls are never worth it as far as I'm concerned. They make decent waitresses and are good at folding clothes and such, but not for getting involved with.
Coming from a girl, it's not a good sign if the female initiates the breakup.
She probably thinks differently of you now that all this time passed. She probably found out things about you that aren't immediately recognizable. In other words, she doesn't suit your personality. You're young. Find someone else. Remember that you are the better.
16? Girls suck at that age. Like someone said, they change their mind too quickly. Their too involved one minute and don't care the next. Just wait it out until you hit 18-20. Then find a girl.
Taking a break was mentioned to me like a month before I got dumped.
Not trying to scare you, I'm jsut sayin'. **** happens. Besides, like some others have said, 16 year old girls dont know what they want. You're better off just screwing around until you're a few years older. Litteraly or figuratively, your call;)
[quote]But whatever, girls are never worth it as far as I'm concerned.
We should all totaly just fux wolves, amirite?
Edit: I bet 5 bucks that Demon blade is full of ****. And even if he isnt, thats retarded. You gave him a sword? OH NOES YOU SURE SHOWED HIM.
I slash you with my level nine DEMONBLADE.
hahaha, i saw that one coming. Too bad mine is level 256.... :0
Yeah, I'm gonna need some pics.
By the way, what's it's length?
Oh, thanks.
That's not even a full sized katana, closer to a wakizashi.
This thread needs less weeaboo.
Velvy, you might just be better off writing her off. :/ Girls that young generally like to drift around from guy to guy.
Wow, way to add to the conversation Vamp.
Velvet, just ****ing dump her. Or don't, maybe you can **** her if you're lucky!
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I'll start off by talking about what I did today, then move on to replying to everyone. If you don't want a journal-type entry, move along.
I was woken up at about 6:45 to get ready for school, and sadly I had had one of the worst night's sleep that I have ever had. I kept waking up, and was in a constant state of terror. It wasn't pleasent to say the least. At any rate, my stomach was completely shot, and hurt even to move. Perhaps it isn't the best idea to absolutely sob yourself to sleep. I can deal with being called names because of that, but it hurt incredibly bad to be in this situation.
I recalled that I had a math test today, and that I wasn't that prepared for it at all. I decided to troop to school anyway. Got picked up at 7:30, and my friend who normally talks to me the entire two miles to school only asked me when I got in whether we had odd or even classes, then didn't speak a word.
This situation has made me think so strangely about things. Normally I don't notice things like flags flapping, how the streets are drawn out, the color of buildings. It reminds me of Eternal Sunshire of the Spotless Mind - sand is overrated; it's just a bunch of little rocks.
It rained all day too, which was bittersweet. I love the rain, but it brings back memories of her, which hurt. Everything....just hurts. We got to school, got out, and I trudged alone over to where we normally hang out. She does independant study, so she wasn't there today, and wouldn't be until recess, and then lunch for her ROP classes, which she has on odd days. I couldn't lift my head up to face the people around me, so as I got to the area where we all hang out, I just moved on, as the warning bell rang. Moved my way to class, and was the first person in the room - which is bizzare considering that I've never been on time to that class before, minus a few days here and there. The girl who sits in front of me is an otaku that I would normally categorize as being "glomp-happy" or something like that, kept trying to talk to me, but I couldn't open my mouth other than to tell her "I'm hurting," in response to "What's up?"
Finished my test, and just knew that I couldn't go on with the rest of the day, I was feeling so dismal and gloomy. I sent my mother a text message and told her that I would need her to come get me as soon as recess ended, because I knew that I couldn't complete the day, not only because I knew that I would be faced with my friends, but because I knew that I would have to see her at some point. I left for recess, and simply stood leaning against a metal pole. A friend of mine in a similar situation, but a girl, came up and gave me a long hug, and tried to make me feel better. One of my best friends is that guy that did this to her, and one of her best friends is the girl that did this to me. Kind of odd. Once all of my friends came out of class though, I couldn't even look at them. My hair was in my face, I was looking down, looked horrible, and then finally one of them had the courage to say "Man, you look really depressed....did you break up with _?" I just looked down and felt like I was going to cry again, and nodded. He said that he felt bad, but knew that nothing he could do could console me, but I took to heart what he said; it was kind. She never did show up for break, so I'm guessing that she just went right to her class when she got to school, which doesn't suprise me too much. I can't blame her, I understand that she didn't want to come out, but I wanted some kind of affermation, a look, a wave, some talking, something. But I was told maybe I should wait a day or two to talk. Let her initiate something, since I typically have done that lately. I left at 9:50, said nothing to my friends, got in the car, and went home. I didn't plan on getting on my computers, but I wanted to talk to everyone briefly.
Moving on to replies,
And excuse the possible double post, but I think I have some new ideas. I just realized that I've been acting rather wussy. Perhaps I need to show her that I'm strong, and not such an emotionally weak person, and that I need'nt be so clingy. I should give her some space, and even though I'm hurting, try to understand that she probably is too. Let's see how this works, starting by leaving her just a short message.
Vampy: It's true that she still may not be fully mature, but again, I just have to give it time. I'm bad at that, but I have to at least give it a try. She's so important to me, and I refuse to lose her as a friend. I don't want to lose my girlfriend, and I will not lose her as my best friend, end of story there.
Sometimes people who are intellectually advanced can be the most crippled when it comes to emotions. :/
And dude, trust me. I know where you're coming from. You may have missed it, but I myself made one of these threads (albeit under slightly different circumstances). Its gonna suck, and theres not much you can do to change it. Just work through it by keeping yourself occupied. Hang out with friends, play video games, jsut do whatever. If you come across something that reminds you of her, just think about why and try to not let it bother you. The longer it goes on, the easier it gets.
I suggest alcohol.
And hookers. Lots and lots of Asian hookers.
But asian hookers are the least hot of all hookers.
White all the way.
I was being serious:(
Hey people?
She just asked me to be her boyfriend again
After a long talk of me telling her things that I felt, and showing her how i really felt, she totally wants to be back together.
I love you all very much. But we're back together, thank you all. I've never had such a strong support from anyone before, and I find it amazing that it was everyone here...so thank you, I can tell you how much you all helped me.
So ends this....close and lock
And thank you :-*
Haha, good deal man.
You're welcome.
Next time she decides to torture you again, which will most likely be very soon, you know where to find us. :type:
Congrats velvelt...glad to hear it.
Oh and all i was saying raptor is that while i agree what i did was "pathetic" i was instinctually inclined to defend myself and my position, but after seeing the a perfect cicle lyrics in your signiture...i felt you were a good enough person to where i did not want to facilitate an arguement...thats all i meant about that.
And yes ladies and gentlemen, while it does violate military dormroom codes, ill have my parents ship my katana along with my assorted collection of daggers and wakazashi's to me...hell, a knife cant be much worse than a paintball gun, and ive had that in here for 3 inspections now. BTW, i apoligize for calling my ninja style 'straight blade' katana...a katana...but once i get the pictures...it should eliminate any confusion...which in turn should create much mocking and harrassment of me, if the story i told hasnt already.
lol Velv knows how to woo the ladies. Good job.
Couldn't have done it with out everyone's input though.
Good to hear. Don't think this is the last of this. ;)
Three cheers for VN. Glad you got back on the right track. :)
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